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Is your child arguing back frequently or showing signs of annoying behavior like screaming “no” to all your requests and getting verbally abusive on a daily basis?
These are signs of severe behavioral problems and discipline challenges that children affected by ADHD throw up. While it is normal for most children to answer back or ignore parents’ requests sometimes, when such conduct becomes chronic it is a manifestation of ADHD, often coupled with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). As many as 40 per cent of the children afflicted by ADHD generally also suffer from ODD, which is characterized by chronic abusive or obnoxious behavior, a tendency to argue or annoy frequently etc.
The bad news is that this behavior can spill into adulthood, leading to severe personal and professional problems that can even have social ramifications when they result in reckless driving, alcoholism, gambling and such ills.
The good news is that with the help of behavior therapy even the most obnoxious and annoying child can be managed. Here are some simple steps and homeopathic medicines for adhd to manage aggressive and abusive behavior in ADHD children.
Positive action works better than negative strategy
Parents need to make use of reward rather than punishment to correct ADHD behavior. Children respond better to positive incentives than to negative ones. For instance, if a child has the annoying habit of turning on the television full blast despite requests to lower the volume, tell him that he will earn 10 minutes extra of viewing his favorite program if keeps the sound low.
Reinforce good behavior with reward.
If a child sits still through class or his parent-teacher meeting, praise him publicly or reward his good conduct.
Don’t be drawn into arguments
Psychologists say that aggressive ADHD kids not only like arguing or answering back but also enjoy drawing parents, teachers or peers into the arguing mode. They like it when they are in the center of the argument. The moment the parents or teachers get into an argument with them, they land on their turf. The abusive child keeps tossing out the verbal bait and the parent keeps falling into the trap.So, stop rising to the bait and arguing with the chronically annoying child who loves to argue about anything and everything.
Try time out strategy
The use of “time-out,” which entails isolating the child immediately for a short period of time, is considered a very effective strategy for dealing with aggressive behavior as it gives both the parent and the child time to cool down.Psychologists usually advise parents to apply 1 minute of timeout for each year of age, which mean 4 minutes for a four year old. The general norm suggested by psychologists is applying the 30% rule to kids with ADHD and learning disabilities.Thus, an abusive or aggressive child should immediately be removed from a situation in which he is annoying or endangering others. Try to make the child look upon time out as a way of cooling off rather than as a form of isolation from others.
Channelize physical aggression into verbal outlet
While mildly aggressive acts should be allowed in a child so as to enable him to let off some steam, when the behavior becomes abusive, physically aggressive or intentional, the best way is to channelize the physical aggression into a verbal outlet. This could mean sometimes allowing the ADHD child to use words that may not be acceptable in normal kids.
Anticipating aggression
Many a time a parent can anticipate situations when a child with ADHD is likely to get aggressive or abusive. Quite frequently, an ADHD simply child explodes in public without any provocation. If such a flare-up happens in public, it is advisable for the parent to remove themselves from the situation by making an exit.
Redirect energy into motor skill
If a child’s verbal aggression develops into intentionally abusive and socially embarrassing conduct, the parents need to channelize his aggression into positive physical activity and motor skills like competitive one-on-one sports, energy-consuming music or dancing, competitive video gaming and such activity .With patience and understanding, parents and other care givers can correct ADHD-related aggressiveness in children through such behavioral therapy.
Top Homeopathic medicines for Abusiveness in kIds With ADHD
Chamomilla :- Homoeopathic medicine chamomilla is one of the best indicated remedies in cases of extreme abusiveness in children. The child may be extremely restless and may cry continuously. Chamomilla may be prescribed when the child keeps demanding one thing after the other and refuses when given. There may be temper tantrum on every little thing. The child cannot tolerate if anyone tries to speak to him. The child may be extremely abusive and complaining. The child cannot take no for an answer and may keep moaning continuously because he is being refused things that he demands. Chamomilla may be given in children who get extremely abusive and violent when anyone interrupts him.
Cina :- Homoeopathic medicine cina is one very well indicated remedy in children who are abusiveness. The child may be very cross and irritable and hates when touched. Cina may be prescribed in children who don’t want to be carried, talked to or touched. They may turn away from strangers. The child bores his face in his mother’s lap and cries incessantly. Here again, the child desires many things but rejects everything when offered. Cina may be prescribed in children who suffer from worm infestations.
Antimony Crud :- Homoeopathic medicine antim crud is also a very well indicated medicine in children who are unusually abusive. The child is excessively irritable and crossed. Any attempt to please the child fails. Nothing seems to satisfy the child. There is much brooding and the child doesn’t want to speak. The child gets angry when someone looks at him. Antim crud may be prescribed in children who are extremely short tempered without any relevant cause.
Veartrum Album :- Homoeopathic medicine veratrum alb is an indicated remedy in children who throw temper tantrums. There may be extreme mood swings and crankiness may alternate with a submissive behavior. The child may scream and curse when angry. Veratrum alb may be prescribed in children who get physically violent when angry. There may be an unusual tendency to tear or cut things during bouts of anger. The child may sit in an awkward position and become totally incommunicable.
Hyoscyamus :- Homoeopathic medicine hyoscyamus is a very well indicated remedy in abusiveness in children. The child may be very quarrelsome and abusive. He may hurl verbal abuses at everyone around him. There may be constant grumbling and muttering due to irritation. The child may be extremely impatient and talkative. Hyocyamus may be prescribed when the child make fun of other children and is extremely insulting. There may be an unusual tendency to find fault. There is much dejection and despair. The child may be insensitive to others feelings.
Natrum Mur:- Homoeopathic medicine natrum mur may be prescribed in cases of abusive children who are extremely weepy and cross. They refuse to be consoled and weep more on consolation. The child is generally well behaved and may be suppressd for a long time. Due to prolonged suppression, there may piling up of the emotions. Suddenly, the child just explodes with angry bouts. The child prefers to be left alone to cry. There is much awkwardness and hasty behavior. Natrum mur may be prescribed when the child gets irritated with trifle things.
Hello Dr. my son has ODD and we are currently working on changes to our parenting and discipline to help him, however, I wanted to see if there were any homeopathic remedies, herbs or medicines that we could give him to help him. He is very combative, tence and angry all the time. He has trouble sleeping. Is there anything you could suggest?
Hello doctor, my 4 yr old daughter speaks alot and her
School teacher complaining me that she doesn’t sit at one place and roams here and there, but she writes when books are given and good in the class. But when the class gets over she starts roaming. Please suggest me some medicine for this
Hi Dear Sir , I adopted a girl name now she is 5 plus , i adopted her from the the day 1 , belongs to a very poor family , her mother is also suffering from mental illness now , not sure bt now she is mental hospital, this is a history of a child , bt no matter now she is mine bt she is very hyperactity , watch TV Doremon all time , bcoz we both are working and cant left our job any how , what should we do to handle her , we dont have enough time as well , it is our fault , bt i cant do anything , I want that she liesten to me , love me bt not she wants to fullfill her own wishws anyhow, i visited a scatrist also he started medicine bt i havnt gvn her , tell me should I give her methymild Tab to her or not or she undrstand me and life go smooth would it be possible or not.
ADHD only involves attention problems which are only caused by hyperactivity that. Goes away after puberty sometimes but a lot of times can only go away FOREVER AFTER PUBERTY through ADHD medicine. Adult ADHD only exists because people de used not to use medicine or were JUST ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE who sometimes do not grow out of their ADHD! So your wrong! I was diagnosed with ADHD and I’m fine on only 30 milligrams of vyvance a day and without it I’m perfectly fine.
I am a mother of 5. My 14 year old son has ADHD and ODD! He is on medicine but its not helping like they said! He’s been on meds for 6 years now! He threatens adults, he lies about EVERYTHING, he has lied so much that my in laws are fighting with us because of the lies he has told them. He doesn’t care what any adult says. I have not found a punishment that works. He simply does not care about anyone but himself and what he gets! As a mother of 5 I’m not sure how much more I can handle. Other adults call me to tell me what wrongs he’s doing, the school calls because he’s sleeping in class or just says he doesn’t have to do anything. Please help me with my son! He’s a great kid but now he is just only out for himself. I don’t know what to do anymore.
Hi Doctor,
Is there an “all in one” homeopathic medicine /supplement I can use for my sons ADHD and ODD?
Hello Dr. Sharma. My son is 3 years 9 months old. He is generally very sweet and behaved. But he has a very short temper he gets angry at everything. He has a 6 year old sister whom he loves but they fight all the time. He will hit, scream, kick & bite when he is angry. He just loses control,throws and bangs everything. He will punish me his mum by hitting and kicking me in every anger situation. He hits his sister & pokes around with her just to get her irritated. I don’t know how to calm him.
My son three and a half year is very much obstinate. He is very much talkative, Understands everything he saw in cartoons. Uses very difficult hindi words what he listens and that also at appropriate situations. From everything else it looks he has a good IQ but when it comes to study, he couldn’t learn even 1 to 4 although he has attended playway for about six months where they were taught counting also. I am a teacher and has tried all the ways like giving him sweets for teaching counting etc but in vain. Is this attention problem because otherwise he could remember wording of songs, dialogues of cartoons etc but in no way is learning counting. I have tried even downloading songs on the counting. One more distinctive feature about him is he has total dislike for fruits, vegetables & their smell too & is eating only parantha with curd/butter or milk only in feeder. what should I do
Hello I have a seven year old son diagnosed with epilepsy since he was 3..seizure is under control but we have problems with focus and attention at school..he talks too much..only wants to play and is always talking about his favorite cartoons..he was doing good but now he is going backwards. .he in on medication.he takes lamictal and DepKote..please help me I dont want to medicate him to go to school
Hi my 12yrs old son has adhd and anxiety takes 3 different meds , He does not like to be told what to do and gets very anger when woken up, never does what he told to do as ” responsibility wise, homework say he has none or does not like doing it and also fight with kids younger than him thinks it funny when some one gets hurt, has to be right by me needs to know where am at yell at me tell my very mean things but then he lies alot but the tells me he loves me so much (im one confused mom) oh but he has therapy couseling every thursday
My son age 9 and a half years old is showing sporadic episodes of anger and hitting. it goes for few minutes to 15 minutes. He scratches everyone during that period. Once this episode is over, he is again normal with no issues. He shows one episode per day. This kid has been through change in residence 3 times, parent separation anxiety and he misses people and friends who left him because of his move to new places. He has been to three new schools in past 5 years. He misses his old school too.
What can we give him to calm down and help gain control over his nerves when he is angry. I believe in homeopathy than any English medicine.
I tries “COMPULSIN” from hello life company for 2 months and it helped his OCD symptoms of repeating words occasionally but not his anger.
Kindly help recommending homeopathy remedy for him. He is 4 feet 6 inches tall and 48 pounds weight. He is thin built and always on move kind of kid.
I am looking into a product from Native Remedy company called “ANGER SOOTHE”. Kindly help
sir my son D swami Charan is studying I st degree. His age is 18 years old. His behaviour is changed
since 2years. He is very much annoyed at parents. He is failing in subjects. He talks as if he is correct.
He argues with parents. Please give medicines for this condition. He is tall and lean. white in color
Hello Dr Sharma my son who is almost 5 has been diagnosed with autism, he is very aggressive, cannot sit still and lacks concentration. He goes to a mainstream school and has 2 teaching assistants, he finds sharing very difficult and gets violent towards the other children and teachers too. His behaviour is getting worse i have taken him to the doctor and he wont help, i dont want to give him medication but would like to try homeopathic remedies. I see chamomilla, antimony crud and veartrum album are all for aggression could you tell me what strength and how many times a day should i give him them please
I look forward to your reply
Kind regards
Carrie kemp
Respected sir
My daughter is going to a play school since last 2 years. She is also suffering from thyroid, which got detected when she was 1 year old. She is taking thyronorm 25. She was fine in the first year of the school. She cud remember counting, alphabets, rhymes,but cannot recognise letters, colours, and numbers on seeing them. But in the second year she got slower as written was started. I have now provided her with extra Tution teacher which can help her. Now she is able to write straight line letters on dots, but cannot recall which letter she had written. Also she is a bit stubborn and cries a lot on small things especially when we stop her from anything. Plz help. Sonam Sethi
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Dr Sharma, I have a 14year old daughter who has progressively become worse in behaviour. She is abusive and always making unrealistic demands. She can be violent at times and when something gets into her head she can be very disruptive. I have split from mum and due to domestic issues Mum has passed my daughter onto me. Due to these issues my daughter has become more disruptive. We live in shared rented house with 2 other tenants. Unfortunately she is not happy with this situation and has demanded that we get our own flat. Due to financial reasons I am unable to fulfil this. She is using this as an excuse to become disruptive. This has emotional and financil impact on my life and has caused problems at work. I am finding it unbearable at times. Are you able to advise any homeopathic medicine to halp me calm the teeanger down and advise on any other therapeutic medicines to ease this aggressive teenager down. Thanks
my daughter aged 16 years becomes violent and cries whenever she is asked to study. She becomes very violent and acts crazy breaking the objects around her. she does not listen to me or my wife i,e her mother. her behaviour with her mother is very violent and even she goes to beat her. She is addicted to TV and mobile application. If asked to switch off home become a hell.
Doctor kindly suggest me ways out of this and being in 11th standard she doesnt study at all. we are in chennai. Kindly guide us to a doctor who can cure this and can give us peace. She is our only daughter.
Hi I’m a single mom I have a 11 year old that has been diagnosis of having adhd odd touretts bipolar anxiety attack panic attack he is on meds been on several different one he is now on zoloft 25 mg an Oxcarbazepine 150 mg twice a day plus clondine 0.1 mg. Please help the dr says there nothing else he can do conselsor gave up on him now I have 3 other kids in the house 16 14 and a 6 year old he hits us don’t no what else to do my daughter gets upset because he disrespect the family he also expect all my attention please help
Hi my son has been diagnosis with adhd odd touretts bipolar panic attacks anxieties attack I’m a single parent with 4 kids he has been to sevaral dr an counselor he is on zoloft 25 mg Oxcarbazepine he take twice a day 150mg an clondine 0.1 dr say he doesn’t know what else to do I also have 3more kids I have to be a referr sometimes because he want to smart off to all of us an hits us an he is stealing off of us taking it to church an sale to them or selling at school please help it getting harder for all of us don’t know what else to do
My son who is 12yrs old is very aggressive and uses abusive languages pleas doctor advise me some medicine for him . I a very worried about him.
Thanks.
I have a 6 yr old adopted son who is diagnosed with ADHD/ODD. He is very aggressive, defiant, and often has rage. I would like to know what homeopathic remedy might work for him. Unfortunately, we do not have a homeopathic practice near us. I was wondering if it was safe to self treat. His behavior is becoming a strain on our family and I desperately need help,
I also have 14 r old with facial and body acne and was wondering what might work for him.
Any help will be greatly appreciated.