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Is your child arguing back frequently or showing signs of annoying behavior like screaming “no” to all your requests and getting verbally abusive on a daily basis?
These are signs of severe behavioral problems and discipline challenges that children affected by ADHD throw up. While it is normal for most children to answer back or ignore parents’ requests sometimes, when such conduct becomes chronic it is a manifestation of ADHD, often coupled with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). As many as 40 per cent of the children afflicted by ADHD generally also suffer from ODD, which is characterized by chronic abusive or obnoxious behavior, a tendency to argue or annoy frequently etc.
The bad news is that this behavior can spill into adulthood, leading to severe personal and professional problems that can even have social ramifications when they result in reckless driving, alcoholism, gambling and such ills.
The good news is that with the help of behavior therapy even the most obnoxious and annoying child can be managed. Here are some simple steps and homeopathic medicines for adhd to manage aggressive and abusive behavior in ADHD children.
Positive action works better than negative strategy
Parents need to make use of reward rather than punishment to correct ADHD behavior. Children respond better to positive incentives than to negative ones. For instance, if a child has the annoying habit of turning on the television full blast despite requests to lower the volume, tell him that he will earn 10 minutes extra of viewing his favorite program if keeps the sound low.
Reinforce good behavior with reward.
If a child sits still through class or his parent-teacher meeting, praise him publicly or reward his good conduct.
Don’t be drawn into arguments
Psychologists say that aggressive ADHD kids not only like arguing or answering back but also enjoy drawing parents, teachers or peers into the arguing mode. They like it when they are in the center of the argument. The moment the parents or teachers get into an argument with them, they land on their turf. The abusive child keeps tossing out the verbal bait and the parent keeps falling into the trap.So, stop rising to the bait and arguing with the chronically annoying child who loves to argue about anything and everything.
Try time out strategy
The use of “time-out,” which entails isolating the child immediately for a short period of time, is considered a very effective strategy for dealing with aggressive behavior as it gives both the parent and the child time to cool down.Psychologists usually advise parents to apply 1 minute of timeout for each year of age, which mean 4 minutes for a four year old. The general norm suggested by psychologists is applying the 30% rule to kids with ADHD and learning disabilities.Thus, an abusive or aggressive child should immediately be removed from a situation in which he is annoying or endangering others. Try to make the child look upon time out as a way of cooling off rather than as a form of isolation from others.
Channelize physical aggression into verbal outlet
While mildly aggressive acts should be allowed in a child so as to enable him to let off some steam, when the behavior becomes abusive, physically aggressive or intentional, the best way is to channelize the physical aggression into a verbal outlet. This could mean sometimes allowing the ADHD child to use words that may not be acceptable in normal kids.
Anticipating aggression
Many a time a parent can anticipate situations when a child with ADHD is likely to get aggressive or abusive. Quite frequently, an ADHD simply child explodes in public without any provocation. If such a flare-up happens in public, it is advisable for the parent to remove themselves from the situation by making an exit.
Redirect energy into motor skill
If a child’s verbal aggression develops into intentionally abusive and socially embarrassing conduct, the parents need to channelize his aggression into positive physical activity and motor skills like competitive one-on-one sports, energy-consuming music or dancing, competitive video gaming and such activity .With patience and understanding, parents and other care givers can correct ADHD-related aggressiveness in children through such behavioral therapy.
Top Homeopathic medicines for Abusiveness in kIds With ADHD
Chamomilla :- Homoeopathic medicine chamomilla is one of the best indicated remedies in cases of extreme abusiveness in children. The child may be extremely restless and may cry continuously. Chamomilla may be prescribed when the child keeps demanding one thing after the other and refuses when given. There may be temper tantrum on every little thing. The child cannot tolerate if anyone tries to speak to him. The child may be extremely abusive and complaining. The child cannot take no for an answer and may keep moaning continuously because he is being refused things that he demands. Chamomilla may be given in children who get extremely abusive and violent when anyone interrupts him.
Cina :- Homoeopathic medicine cina is one very well indicated remedy in children who are abusiveness. The child may be very cross and irritable and hates when touched. Cina may be prescribed in children who don’t want to be carried, talked to or touched. They may turn away from strangers. The child bores his face in his mother’s lap and cries incessantly. Here again, the child desires many things but rejects everything when offered. Cina may be prescribed in children who suffer from worm infestations.
Antimony Crud :- Homoeopathic medicine antim crud is also a very well indicated medicine in children who are unusually abusive. The child is excessively irritable and crossed. Any attempt to please the child fails. Nothing seems to satisfy the child. There is much brooding and the child doesn’t want to speak. The child gets angry when someone looks at him. Antim crud may be prescribed in children who are extremely short tempered without any relevant cause.
Veartrum Album :- Homoeopathic medicine veratrum alb is an indicated remedy in children who throw temper tantrums. There may be extreme mood swings and crankiness may alternate with a submissive behavior. The child may scream and curse when angry. Veratrum alb may be prescribed in children who get physically violent when angry. There may be an unusual tendency to tear or cut things during bouts of anger. The child may sit in an awkward position and become totally incommunicable.
Hyoscyamus :- Homoeopathic medicine hyoscyamus is a very well indicated remedy in abusiveness in children. The child may be very quarrelsome and abusive. He may hurl verbal abuses at everyone around him. There may be constant grumbling and muttering due to irritation. The child may be extremely impatient and talkative. Hyocyamus may be prescribed when the child make fun of other children and is extremely insulting. There may be an unusual tendency to find fault. There is much dejection and despair. The child may be insensitive to others feelings.
Natrum Mur:- Homoeopathic medicine natrum mur may be prescribed in cases of abusive children who are extremely weepy and cross. They refuse to be consoled and weep more on consolation. The child is generally well behaved and may be suppressd for a long time. Due to prolonged suppression, there may piling up of the emotions. Suddenly, the child just explodes with angry bouts. The child prefers to be left alone to cry. There is much awkwardness and hasty behavior. Natrum mur may be prescribed when the child gets irritated with trifle things.
My teenage son 15yrs, has been diagnosed with ADD previously. He may be hyperthyroid as his hands tremble in the morning and he has had bulging eyes but they are not too bulging, now. He has poor grades and barely attends school. He has always been very stubborn and makes excuses all the time, and says he will do things “later”. He plays computor games all night and cuts up paper which he has drawn on, and screws it into balls. He avoids talking about the future and does not seem to grasp his responsibility in making his life of a job, etc happen. He played with paper while we talked. He has grown very tall but does not eat much (i am small, and his father;small). He himself said that he thinks he is almost just like a sociopath, being able to manipulate and having no feelings. He often says, “I don’t care” and “shut up” and” I don’t want to talk”, “dont talk to me”. He likes to eat corn chips and yogurt. He used to wear his boxer shorts inside out so he did not have to feel the seams. He has stretch marks on his back. He used to like being funny and saying random things and liked to outsmart people , ie, tricks on computor games, and he loved the antic of Brer Rabbit when he was a child.would love help, thank you
Hello Dr. My 2yr old daughter screems , heat to parents also herself also n other children also , she cries a lot ,don’t take any nap in the day n remains very cranky ,she throws almost everything which is in present of her ,sometimes remains very calm but for very few time , n don’t like to stay at home , please guide me which medicine will work on her
Hello! I have a 14 year old son with ADHD and ODD constantly getting in trouble at school for not being on task, being disrespectful at home and with teachers. He fidgets, he has a tic with his lips at times, he is super smart and gets great grades. He is very athletic but this school year he did not make the teams due to his attitude. He constantly talks back and is swearing all time. I tried high dose vitamins 5htp, nicanimide, l glutamine, and NAC. Stimulant adderalls did not work made him more agitated. He says people are always bothering him when he gets in trouble. Please help…
Dear Dr. Sharma I have a very aggressive 4 year old. Not only is he physically bilomet towards me and his 11year old sister, he is hurting my dogs, kicking,choking,eye poking. He is also very defiant and has response to any form of discipline including spanking as he has almost no pain sensory. I have him currently doing PCIT and so far his aggression and anger seems to have gotten worse. Any suggestions?
Hello, I have a 10 year old child who was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD when he was 6, he has been on medication such as straterra and tenex.. we had stop all of his meds as it was messing with his heart and I refuse to put him on a stimulant. The problem we are having is his anger outbursts he gets very violent and angry, anything can set him off he hates being told no and if he doesn’t get his way he gets extremely angry ( hits his 9 year old brother, kicks walls, throws things either just to throw or he will throw it at someone) I would love to try a natural remedie and see how it works on him, what would you suggest?
We have a child who swears, disrespectful to us-parents and his brother. Refuses to do homework or chores. At school does not like to do his work, hard time focusing and concentrating. Will call parents names and swears. Always wants us to buy him something. What medication will work for him.
my grand son aged 18 years sudden changed his behavior when he could not get what he wants instantly. He even threw and broke whatever items he saw nearby and even forgot his parents and behaved very badly. Please tell me the right medication with strength and period.
Good morning,
My grand daughter is 6th old…does not concentrate,talks ,distrust
Other children, does not finish her task in school. She ha very good memory,
Remember her lessons, goes to Madressa.
Very very caring and loving child,will stop everything to see to others need and
This gets caught up neglecting her task.
Please assist. ….beautiful intelligent child
God bless
Warm regards
Mrs essop
My daughter(7yrs) is very much irritating. Don’t wanna go to school. Don’t talk anyone in school or outsider. But on house she is very much talkative. Loses temper very suddenly. When tempered she refuse everything. Wanna hurt me. Talk that she ‘ll kill us. Insult everyone. 2/3 hours minimum she continue this. But suddenly she turn back. Then she behave well. I’m from Bangladesh. Pls suggest me medicine to overcome such situation.
Sir
My daughter age is around 14 and now a days she argues very much and during the combing of her hair she always cries that it is not correct and she abuses her mother and some time she beat also and she behaves very aggressively . During the test and exam she do well and she is coming 1st and 2 nd rank and she never accept if we tell good things and during the combing of her hair her mother only has to do and nearly 10 times she removes this is not correct and tell her mother and shout and abuses. After some time she is ok
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Dear Sir,
Good Afternoon & Greetings for the Day…
Sir My son Siddesh is studying in ix standard in St. pius school in Mulund. He is very arogant and disturb minded in studies and seems to be lack of interest in studies.
We are worried about his carrier in studies
Pls guide us.
Thank You,
Suvarna Patil
Sir my son is 14 years old and study in class 8th he is not intrested in study and learning he is suffering ld can u suggest me what medicin is best for him
My 10 year old son has ADHD and is taking a prescription medication at this time. He is very moody and very irritable most of the time. Your article about kids with ODD and ADHD is explaining my son EXACTLY. We have tried several all natural things but have not had any luck. We would like to continue looking to find something all natural or homeopathic for him and I ran across this website Hoping you can help
How much doses of Chamomilla 30 be given to 6 years old child for temper tantrum?
Hello… I’m from bangladesh
my child is 6 years old..
He shows always anger with everyone xpt me
His father was mentally ill..
and he was my cousin also..
my son can remember all the shows what he watch in tv.. but he can’t remember what he read in his books…
even he is not much talkative
His height is 106 cm..
i would like to prefer homeopathic for him..
his weird behave day by day is increasing.. wht should i do now…
Sir, my son is 3 years old. He shows very irritable behavior. Does not like to eat any thing. He does not want to take bath , does not want to wear cloths, troubles and even hits her mother too much.
His behavior has become worse after his long illness (fever, cough and cold). He was treated by the alopathic medicines. similar situation arrived once earlier also. He says no to every thing. and does not take any logical arguments.
Presently he has little cough and cold and he is very difficult to handle especially for her mother. looking forward for your valuable suggesstions and advice.
Regards
Hi Dr. Shama,
I’m in need of some help regarding my five year old Nathalie born 12-14-10. She is in charter school and very smart however has short attention span, irritable, violent once and mostly when sleeping. I find it very hard for her to to to bed at night and she fights sleep and is sometimes annoying at night or when she wants her way and behaves defiant and difficult until you just give up. She likes to be the center of attention and I really need some new parenting skills or tricks. Changed
diet to oat cereal in the .mornings.
I have an 18 ye old coming of vyvanse- impulsive, odd and two foster children on multiple meds for aggression, ADHD,verbal abuse,odd, mood disorder. I need help
Hi Dr Sharma
My daughter aged 18 is very defiant especially when she fixates her mind on her looks for eg if she does not like the color of her hair she would demand and threaten us to buy a hair dye product. If she does not get her way she would throw household items and even beat or bite mum.She has an obssessive personality and always feels the need to dress like a model and rather inappropriately .
She has been seeing a psychiatrist but the meds may reduce the symptoms without any definitive improvement Please advise
I have a child with severe autism and one with adhd that need help. The youngest has meltdowns and aggression when he does not get his way. The adhd child has issues when he does not get his way verbal
Is BOIRON USA Hyoscyamus Niger 12c same as “Hyoscyamus”
where can I buy Hyoscyamus from?
daughter is 12 yrs old, she is constantly shouting, complaining, irritable, talks very loudly all the time, when I ask her to do chores she back chats and takes a long time to do it, I took her out of room she sleeps in lounge now cos she constantly complaing bout younger brother who is 10 yrs old, the smallest thing u say to her then she irritates herself and shout, pls help I cant take it anymore.is this puberty or something more serious.she makes everybody on edge as we dont know what she gonna start shouting or complaining.
I know positive. rewards are good and not feeding into ang arguement w my adhd child but when the due get punishment what should i do my child is 15 years old how long should punishments be i feel she is old enough not to earn time back and everything that comes out her mouth is very direspectful.