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Is your child arguing back frequently or showing signs of annoying behavior like screaming “no” to all your requests and getting verbally abusive on a daily basis?
These are signs of severe behavioral problems and discipline challenges that children affected by ADHD throw up. While it is normal for most children to answer back or ignore parents’ requests sometimes, when such conduct becomes chronic it is a manifestation of ADHD, often coupled with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). As many as 40 per cent of the children afflicted by ADHD generally also suffer from ODD, which is characterized by chronic abusive or obnoxious behavior, a tendency to argue or annoy frequently etc.
The bad news is that this behavior can spill into adulthood, leading to severe personal and professional problems that can even have social ramifications when they result in reckless driving, alcoholism, gambling and such ills.
The good news is that with the help of behavior therapy even the most obnoxious and annoying child can be managed. Here are some simple steps and homeopathic medicines for adhd to manage aggressive and abusive behavior in ADHD children.
Positive action works better than negative strategy
Parents need to make use of reward rather than punishment to correct ADHD behavior. Children respond better to positive incentives than to negative ones. For instance, if a child has the annoying habit of turning on the television full blast despite requests to lower the volume, tell him that he will earn 10 minutes extra of viewing his favorite program if keeps the sound low.
Reinforce good behavior with reward.
If a child sits still through class or his parent-teacher meeting, praise him publicly or reward his good conduct.
Don’t be drawn into arguments
Psychologists say that aggressive ADHD kids not only like arguing or answering back but also enjoy drawing parents, teachers or peers into the arguing mode. They like it when they are in the center of the argument. The moment the parents or teachers get into an argument with them, they land on their turf. The abusive child keeps tossing out the verbal bait and the parent keeps falling into the trap.So, stop rising to the bait and arguing with the chronically annoying child who loves to argue about anything and everything.
Try time out strategy
The use of “time-out,” which entails isolating the child immediately for a short period of time, is considered a very effective strategy for dealing with aggressive behavior as it gives both the parent and the child time to cool down.Psychologists usually advise parents to apply 1 minute of timeout for each year of age, which mean 4 minutes for a four year old. The general norm suggested by psychologists is applying the 30% rule to kids with ADHD and learning disabilities.Thus, an abusive or aggressive child should immediately be removed from a situation in which he is annoying or endangering others. Try to make the child look upon time out as a way of cooling off rather than as a form of isolation from others.
Channelize physical aggression into verbal outlet
While mildly aggressive acts should be allowed in a child so as to enable him to let off some steam, when the behavior becomes abusive, physically aggressive or intentional, the best way is to channelize the physical aggression into a verbal outlet. This could mean sometimes allowing the ADHD child to use words that may not be acceptable in normal kids.
Anticipating aggression
Many a time a parent can anticipate situations when a child with ADHD is likely to get aggressive or abusive. Quite frequently, an ADHD simply child explodes in public without any provocation. If such a flare-up happens in public, it is advisable for the parent to remove themselves from the situation by making an exit.
Redirect energy into motor skill
If a child’s verbal aggression develops into intentionally abusive and socially embarrassing conduct, the parents need to channelize his aggression into positive physical activity and motor skills like competitive one-on-one sports, energy-consuming music or dancing, competitive video gaming and such activity .With patience and understanding, parents and other care givers can correct ADHD-related aggressiveness in children through such behavioral therapy.
Top Homeopathic medicines for Abusiveness in kIds With ADHD
Chamomilla :- Homoeopathic medicine chamomilla is one of the best indicated remedies in cases of extreme abusiveness in children. The child may be extremely restless and may cry continuously. Chamomilla may be prescribed when the child keeps demanding one thing after the other and refuses when given. There may be temper tantrum on every little thing. The child cannot tolerate if anyone tries to speak to him. The child may be extremely abusive and complaining. The child cannot take no for an answer and may keep moaning continuously because he is being refused things that he demands. Chamomilla may be given in children who get extremely abusive and violent when anyone interrupts him.
Cina :- Homoeopathic medicine cina is one very well indicated remedy in children who are abusiveness. The child may be very cross and irritable and hates when touched. Cina may be prescribed in children who don’t want to be carried, talked to or touched. They may turn away from strangers. The child bores his face in his mother’s lap and cries incessantly. Here again, the child desires many things but rejects everything when offered. Cina may be prescribed in children who suffer from worm infestations.
Antimony Crud :- Homoeopathic medicine antim crud is also a very well indicated medicine in children who are unusually abusive. The child is excessively irritable and crossed. Any attempt to please the child fails. Nothing seems to satisfy the child. There is much brooding and the child doesn’t want to speak. The child gets angry when someone looks at him. Antim crud may be prescribed in children who are extremely short tempered without any relevant cause.
Veartrum Album :- Homoeopathic medicine veratrum alb is an indicated remedy in children who throw temper tantrums. There may be extreme mood swings and crankiness may alternate with a submissive behavior. The child may scream and curse when angry. Veratrum alb may be prescribed in children who get physically violent when angry. There may be an unusual tendency to tear or cut things during bouts of anger. The child may sit in an awkward position and become totally incommunicable.
Hyoscyamus :- Homoeopathic medicine hyoscyamus is a very well indicated remedy in abusiveness in children. The child may be very quarrelsome and abusive. He may hurl verbal abuses at everyone around him. There may be constant grumbling and muttering due to irritation. The child may be extremely impatient and talkative. Hyocyamus may be prescribed when the child make fun of other children and is extremely insulting. There may be an unusual tendency to find fault. There is much dejection and despair. The child may be insensitive to others feelings.
Natrum Mur:- Homoeopathic medicine natrum mur may be prescribed in cases of abusive children who are extremely weepy and cross. They refuse to be consoled and weep more on consolation. The child is generally well behaved and may be suppressd for a long time. Due to prolonged suppression, there may piling up of the emotions. Suddenly, the child just explodes with angry bouts. The child prefers to be left alone to cry. There is much awkwardness and hasty behavior. Natrum mur may be prescribed when the child gets irritated with trifle things.
hello, My name is cheryl Kelly and I am writing to you about my 13 year old autistic grandson. He is mostly no verbal and pretty much potty trained. since he hit puberty, he has shown more signs of aggression. He is having explosive agression issues. The School and family have tried all of the above ways to try and manage this. He is on alot of anti-sycotic meds. We would appriciate hearing from you. Thank You, Cheryl Kelly
My daughter is in Class-VIII. She was detected suffering from ADHD , in Apollo Chennai when she was in class IV. She was on treatment and has taken attendrol-25 for about 2 years. Then we have stopped given any medicine. Though she is somehow managing in school but with increase of work load she is extremely difficult to cope up– Her problems are –
She cannot study alone . Either me or my wife has to sit beside her .
Very argumentative
retention power is very poor. Even a four page chapter will require a whole day to learn.
Repeated silly mistakes in mathematics
We get complains for disturbing others in school.
Even though she is trying to work hazrd but the output is not satisfactory.
We are really very stressed in this regard. We will be grateful if we get some genuine advise.
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I would like to use homeopathy to help improve my childs ability to cope. I work in special needs and can see really classic ADD symptoms but really do not want to use ritalin etc as I see a lot o negative effects of this medication at work.
My son is 8. I have always noticed a tendency to move from one thing to the next and never really complete anything properly (even as a toddler). He is bright and has coped at school so far as he learned to read very quickly and is actually in an advanced class. He does not neccessarily perform as well at things that require time to work out what is required before rushing along.
He likes to take charge of his friends and hence has problems on the playground.
He is difficult to manage as if he doesnt get his own way he will persue it to the death even if his carrying on has not paid off in the past. My other children have never done this. If he doesnt win he will do little things to indicate that he believes he has won anyway. He will remember the battle for years-everty detail.
Having said that he is the most affectionate and most naturally gifted of my children.
I do not want to persue medication. Is there a remedy you could recommend that may help?
thanks
Leanne
my 2.5 year male child is very restless and may cried all day long.he demand one think if not given he became angry and start crying but when same think given he refused or thrown away. he also suffered from wart problem, he have some warts near right eye and cheek.
plz provide some solution.
Dear Dr. Sharma,
Greetings of the day………
I am Preety ,My daughter Divija Duggal is 16 years old ,She is very hyper and dont want to go to school and she dont want to do studies . She easily misbehave with her brother and father and with me also. She enjoying to do surfing Net and talking with her friends . And she is easily changed her friends . My whole family disturbed due to her behavior . Let me know what can i do for her , She is AHDH or any other problem??? I confused what can i do for her???
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I have a son of 6yrs, he has been diagnosed with ODB, ADHDT was found below average, however his individual scores on hyperactivity not impulsively scale falls in the average. Range.his IQ IS 118.He is very abusive not picks up bad language immediately. He is under going OT n special education, I.even remedial therapy for 6 mnths. V hv just started but can u tell someone medicine for him.Thanks. ,Tanuja
about ADHD….MY CHILD 9 YEAR OLD HE IS SUFFRING FROM ADHD
I HAVE CONTACT YOU 2nd TIME. MY CHILD NAME IS MOHD. DANISHALAM ANSARI, AGE 8YRS. YOUR ATTENTION IS POOR, NOT SITING CONTINUE IN YOUR CLASSROOM, TEACHER AND PRINCIPAL IRRITATE MANYTIMES. AND SHE WORN NOT TO TAKE HER SCHOOL, AND I DO NOT REACH YOUR HOMEO CLINIC. PT. DANISH MOVES HIS CLASSROOMS DISTURVING OTHER STUDENT, HE LOUGHS UNMEANING TIME TO TIME ,BUT HIS WRITTING IS VERY WELL,READING IS POOR. DO NOT TALE YOUR SCHOOL ACTIVITY.HE IS GOING YOUR SCHOOL HAPPYLY EVERYDAY. HE TALES YOUR SCHOOL FRIENDS NAME.HE KNOWS EVERYBODY IN YOUR NEAREST RELATIVE AND OTHERS. HE BORN NORMEL DELEVARY.HIS WEIGHT 3.200KG. THAT TIME NOBODY PHYSICALY DEFORMATY. BODY STRUCTURE IS NORMAL WT. IS 24K.G. BRAIN STRUCTURE IS NORMAL ON MRI REPORT. BERRA TEST IS NORMAL,AUTISM SCREANNING TEST IS MODERATE, SPEECH AND DEVELOPMENT THERAPY IS CONTINUE AFTER 5YEARS. SO I WANT KNOW WHAT IS YOUR OPINION ABOUT MAST. DANISH FUTURE. PLEASE WRITE ME.
When I advise her to study and tell her to give her study memorising, she refuses. I want her deep attention in study as Madhyamik exam is knocking at the door.
dear sir,
my son is 4 and half years old. he has an expressive speech delay. he can speak 30 words and can join 2 words now. he is undergoing speech therapy since 8 months which has also helped. his understanding is ok and appropriate for his AGE. I had a Ceasarian delivery 1 week before the due date..pregnancy time was ok , no problems faced. only bp was slightly high for which i used to take medicines. his milestones were on time …walking was a bit delayed ..he started at about 2 yrs ….he like to run and play games.. likes to play with friends.. makes friends easily…but not speaking upto the mark. kindly suggest treatement for the same.
My daughter Jahan 5 years old diagnosised as ADHD child.Right now her eye contact is poor,Speech is not clear, always moody,exited,dreaming….not concentrating , to much fidgety. Looks very normal……likes to run always………..
Dr. Sharma,
My daughter is of 14 years.she is having learning disability presently in classVI but actually is of level of class 1. She has a very poor memory retention. speech is not clear but has a very high social understanding. She had a habit of moving her head bothways when alone. At times when she is angry she tends to hurt herself. Anything visual she has a very high memory i,e, TV serials. Her legs are not steady when she walks & often shaky while climbing stairs she has fear within of falling down. Her favourite past time is to listen to music all alone & gets irritated if anyone around.
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Hello,
i am mother of single male child of 12 years 6 months.His father passed away 5 years back. so,i live with my child in a campus where i work.
My child does not take interest in studies (in 6 th class) since childhood . there are some symtoms i found him.
1.impulsive
2. can not focus on one activity specially related to academics.
3.like day dreaming
4.pretend to be boxer,killer,criminal,police and acts like
5.low tolerance
6.low self esteem
7.can not sit a place for long time
8.wants to do some physical activity acoording to his choice
9.argue not verbally much and get voilent
10. show violence on mother oftenly by fighting or hitting by object/hand/leg
11.can not focus on studies
12.very difficult to remember big Q/Ans.
13. good in objective type Q/Ans.
Please suggest me what to do? i am staying in Hyderabad.
My child is 26 years. He is short temper and abusive always on computer watching battle games .he thinka that he is right. Once he has done accident kimdly suggest treatment available at pk .
My son is 11 years old but slight for his age. He is angelic looking with fine features, blond hair and blue eyes but his looks are deceptive – his behaviour is very difficult and I think he must have an imbalance in his brain. His main issue is discontent – he gets obsessions and will go on and on about it (could be anything from a trip to the library to wanting a pet rabbit or wanting to go to an exciting place). The thing is he will start making these demands as soon as he gets home from school and as soon as he reaches that goal, there will always be something new. He seems to be always grumpy and tense. He is intelligent and seems to cope well with his schoolwork, though would like to be the best at everything and tries to get friends by getting the most or best of something. He is naturally shy, and makes friends but likes to have his own way, for example when he has someone to play, if he goes on the computer – he will make them watch while he plays the game. He is quite selfish and likes having things to himself. He is good at sports with very good co-ordination, so has no problem with this area.
He is abusive towards other family members, does what he likes and gets angry when corrected – will swear and always grumping and moaning. Gets bored very easily, and only wants to do exciting things. He loves the computer and would spend his whole life on it if he were allowed. He loves shooting games and is very good at them – but although he is not supposed to play them, he will still do it as soon as your back is turned. He will also tell lies and help himself to whatever he feels like and is hates to do as he is told. When sitting still he always jiggles his legs. When he becomes angry he will say he hates you and sometimes threaten to kill. He likes to be the one in charge and plays games wrestling with his younger sisters, so he can be the best – he will never do it with someone who might be stronger than him. He cries easily and sometimes wets his bed, but that is improving. I feel he is a bit unusual but hard to describe. He likes to ignore you when you speak to him and often takes a few attempts before he acknowledges you, and doesn’t like communicating but can speak fine when it suits him. He is quite vain and spends a lot of time getting his hair right! I’m sure he will be fine in the end, but it’s getting him there we need help with now! He has 4 older brothers, 1 older sister and two younger ones who get exasperated as he is so disruptive.
I feel he has ODD, but can’t decide which remedy is the best as he has so many symptoms. Would very much appreciate your expert advice.
My son is 13 and diagnosed Aspergers when he wa s 8 – has classic symptoms but has recently been more angy,depressed and aggressive. He is annoyed at everything and swears at us all the time, very abusive and afraid he will hurt himself as he says he does not want to be like this. He has now been tested for ADHD as well, which could be an overlap on the spectrum and he does have traits of this as never sits still and always looking for next thing to do. Hates going to bed at night. Would you reecommend Homeopathy as we do not want him to start on any of the classic drugs but now considering a more natural treatment.
Hi Doctor
My daughter is 9 years old . She is studying in Vth Std. She is very good is studies, she learn very fast, plays well, participates in plays etc… better to say everything do fantastic. Even her teachers says she is the brilliant girl of the class who knows everything but only one problem that is writting speed.
I believe she does not concentrate more or should say its lack of attention ???? ( dont know ) . If she writes something ( just writting only ) she talks something else like stories of her friends or something( if we sit with her still she completes her work slow ) …..worst problem is she is not completing her class work which further effects her exams . she knows full paper but due to lack of speed ,her 15-20% paper always left. Her teachers says that if she completes her work in class and complete the paper she would be the topper of her school . One more thing suppose she complete 70% paper so resultant she get 69 – 70% marks ( no mistakes ) .
totally confussed what to do and how !!!!
rgds
ADHD only involves attention problems which are only caused by hyperactivity that. Goes away after puberty sometimes but a lot of times can only go away FOREVER AFTER PUBERTY through ADHD medicine. Adult ADHD only exists because people de used not to use medicine or were JUST ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE who sometimes do not grow out of their ADHD! So your wrong! I was diagnosed with ADHD and I’m fine on only 30 milligrams of vyvance a day and without it I’m perfectly fine.
Dr.Sharma
My daughter Riya 5 years old diagnosised as ADHD child.Right now her eye contact is poor,Speech only FEW WORDS Mummy daddy, always moody,exited,dreaming….not concentrating , to much fidgety.Always like to climb but doesn’t fall..looks very normal……likes to run always………..
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