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Is your child arguing back frequently or showing signs of annoying behavior like screaming “no” to all your requests and getting verbally abusive on a daily basis?
These are signs of severe behavioral problems and discipline challenges that children affected by ADHD throw up. While it is normal for most children to answer back or ignore parents’ requests sometimes, when such conduct becomes chronic it is a manifestation of ADHD, often coupled with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). As many as 40 per cent of the children afflicted by ADHD generally also suffer from ODD, which is characterized by chronic abusive or obnoxious behavior, a tendency to argue or annoy frequently etc.
The bad news is that this behavior can spill into adulthood, leading to severe personal and professional problems that can even have social ramifications when they result in reckless driving, alcoholism, gambling and such ills.
The good news is that with the help of behavior therapy even the most obnoxious and annoying child can be managed. Here are some simple steps and homeopathic medicines for adhd to manage aggressive and abusive behavior in ADHD children.
Positive action works better than negative strategy
Parents need to make use of reward rather than punishment to correct ADHD behavior. Children respond better to positive incentives than to negative ones. For instance, if a child has the annoying habit of turning on the television full blast despite requests to lower the volume, tell him that he will earn 10 minutes extra of viewing his favorite program if keeps the sound low.
Reinforce good behavior with reward.
If a child sits still through class or his parent-teacher meeting, praise him publicly or reward his good conduct.
Don’t be drawn into arguments
Psychologists say that aggressive ADHD kids not only like arguing or answering back but also enjoy drawing parents, teachers or peers into the arguing mode. They like it when they are in the center of the argument. The moment the parents or teachers get into an argument with them, they land on their turf. The abusive child keeps tossing out the verbal bait and the parent keeps falling into the trap.So, stop rising to the bait and arguing with the chronically annoying child who loves to argue about anything and everything.
Try time out strategy
The use of “time-out,” which entails isolating the child immediately for a short period of time, is considered a very effective strategy for dealing with aggressive behavior as it gives both the parent and the child time to cool down.Psychologists usually advise parents to apply 1 minute of timeout for each year of age, which mean 4 minutes for a four year old. The general norm suggested by psychologists is applying the 30% rule to kids with ADHD and learning disabilities.Thus, an abusive or aggressive child should immediately be removed from a situation in which he is annoying or endangering others. Try to make the child look upon time out as a way of cooling off rather than as a form of isolation from others.
Channelize physical aggression into verbal outlet
While mildly aggressive acts should be allowed in a child so as to enable him to let off some steam, when the behavior becomes abusive, physically aggressive or intentional, the best way is to channelize the physical aggression into a verbal outlet. This could mean sometimes allowing the ADHD child to use words that may not be acceptable in normal kids.
Anticipating aggression
Many a time a parent can anticipate situations when a child with ADHD is likely to get aggressive or abusive. Quite frequently, an ADHD simply child explodes in public without any provocation. If such a flare-up happens in public, it is advisable for the parent to remove themselves from the situation by making an exit.
Redirect energy into motor skill
If a child’s verbal aggression develops into intentionally abusive and socially embarrassing conduct, the parents need to channelize his aggression into positive physical activity and motor skills like competitive one-on-one sports, energy-consuming music or dancing, competitive video gaming and such activity .With patience and understanding, parents and other care givers can correct ADHD-related aggressiveness in children through such behavioral therapy.
Top Homeopathic medicines for Abusiveness in kIds With ADHD
Chamomilla :- Homoeopathic medicine chamomilla is one of the best indicated remedies in cases of extreme abusiveness in children. The child may be extremely restless and may cry continuously. Chamomilla may be prescribed when the child keeps demanding one thing after the other and refuses when given. There may be temper tantrum on every little thing. The child cannot tolerate if anyone tries to speak to him. The child may be extremely abusive and complaining. The child cannot take no for an answer and may keep moaning continuously because he is being refused things that he demands. Chamomilla may be given in children who get extremely abusive and violent when anyone interrupts him.
Cina :- Homoeopathic medicine cina is one very well indicated remedy in children who are abusiveness. The child may be very cross and irritable and hates when touched. Cina may be prescribed in children who don’t want to be carried, talked to or touched. They may turn away from strangers. The child bores his face in his mother’s lap and cries incessantly. Here again, the child desires many things but rejects everything when offered. Cina may be prescribed in children who suffer from worm infestations.
Antimony Crud :- Homoeopathic medicine antim crud is also a very well indicated medicine in children who are unusually abusive. The child is excessively irritable and crossed. Any attempt to please the child fails. Nothing seems to satisfy the child. There is much brooding and the child doesn’t want to speak. The child gets angry when someone looks at him. Antim crud may be prescribed in children who are extremely short tempered without any relevant cause.
Veartrum Album :- Homoeopathic medicine veratrum alb is an indicated remedy in children who throw temper tantrums. There may be extreme mood swings and crankiness may alternate with a submissive behavior. The child may scream and curse when angry. Veratrum alb may be prescribed in children who get physically violent when angry. There may be an unusual tendency to tear or cut things during bouts of anger. The child may sit in an awkward position and become totally incommunicable.
Hyoscyamus :- Homoeopathic medicine hyoscyamus is a very well indicated remedy in abusiveness in children. The child may be very quarrelsome and abusive. He may hurl verbal abuses at everyone around him. There may be constant grumbling and muttering due to irritation. The child may be extremely impatient and talkative. Hyocyamus may be prescribed when the child make fun of other children and is extremely insulting. There may be an unusual tendency to find fault. There is much dejection and despair. The child may be insensitive to others feelings.
Natrum Mur:- Homoeopathic medicine natrum mur may be prescribed in cases of abusive children who are extremely weepy and cross. They refuse to be consoled and weep more on consolation. The child is generally well behaved and may be suppressd for a long time. Due to prolonged suppression, there may piling up of the emotions. Suddenly, the child just explodes with angry bouts. The child prefers to be left alone to cry. There is much awkwardness and hasty behavior. Natrum mur may be prescribed when the child gets irritated with trifle things.
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I am mother of single male child of 11 years .His father does not assist in caring for him and everything out of his mouth is that he will lash him.
he was diagnosed with ADHD and is on medication.
My child does not retain much of what is taught in most classes. Here are some symtoms i found in him.
1 impulsive
2. can not focus on one activity specially related to academics. Struggles badly in Math and English. Very good at foreign language i.e. Spanish
3. Hardly completes homework given.
4. Aggressive especially if someone touches him or the other way around
5.low tolerance
6.low self esteem
7.can not sit a place for long time
8. Writes stuff that he isn’t like by anyone.
9. Argues at every little thing and carries on even after conversation is over
10. cannot focus on studies
Can you give me a suggestion of which remedy to use.
Respected Dr Sharma
My daughter is 8 years of old. She is refused to study at any more. Sir please give any remedy for study.
Dear Dr. Sharma,
Since I’ve read the article “ADHD Homeopathic remedies | Six Ways To Manage Abusiveness In Kids” I believe I’ve solved my dilemma on the issue- does homeopathy helps in cases of kids aggression.
In our case – we are facing a problem of increased boy aggression since puberty. It’s about 13 year old boy who is not abnormal aggressive , but since puberty is prone to fights and I believe this is the right time to “cut down” this on start up. Actually,I really don’t know how to approach this problem , how to find a well trained homeopath and to act somehow…
My daughter is 9 years old. When she was 4 the doctors said she was boarder line Adhd. I have not had her reevaluated because I do not want them to push medications on to her. I am a firm believer that kids do not need it. Lately she has gotten worse. She is very moody, emotional, defiant, aggressive and angry. We have her in counseling but it is not helping. We would like to try a natural remedy before we have to resort to medications. What would the best thing to try be?
Thank you
Sir my daughter was a topper in school and a very well behaved girl . She is 24 now . For past 6 -7 years she behaves rudely , cries over small things and is mostly involved in social networking . Though she is doing a job she gets these fits of anger and she yells at anyone at that time . She has detached emotionally from all family members . She wants to go abroad for further studies. Also she is completely disorganised , loses her things quite often . Don’t know whether it is a medical condition or not please help
Need help with 6 yr old son diagnosed with ADHD/odd, aggression, rage. What homeopathic remedy should I try?
sir my younger son is really very abusive in nature speak a lot when i say some thing he always takes wrong meaning always negative feeling for parents he is 18 years old and he is smoking also now pls help me out and can i speak in detail with you regarding his symptoms and i would like to go for his treatment pls help me out he will be restless when his demands are not fulfilled will be saying something or other
hi sir
hi sir gud post..
my son 6yrs old. is hyperactive, i do see children worse than him so i cannot say that he is extreme in that case.. but we actually diagnosed him after we started sending him to football academy. where from day one he was on complain. he kicks other children. he says he doesnt do it deliberately. but while trying to get the ball from others he accidently kicks them. coach tells him not to do though he repeats. he has become lil better than before after repeatedly telling not to do.. i find children also not get along with him. that is because they dont pass the ball to him. .. he gets frustrated at pitch when children dont pass and he gets some times more aggressive by kicking and tackling children more… At home i find him that for him its difficult to listen to people. he will hear after we call him repeatedly. i dont find anything wrong at his current level of study….
My wife diagnosed him in PRS hospital n they have said its ADHD, n for me its a big SHOCK… she has prescribed Axepta 10, for him..i havent started the med due to fear of it may have side effects on his growth and developement n etc…
And also i have told my wife that i dont want to give my kid meds with one opinion. …
Dear Dr, do u think my son is suffering from ADHD. i would like to consult him to you to see what u think on his case. for that i would like to get the address of yours…
regards,
Hassan
Dear Dr,
My son is 7 yrs 9 months old and has been detected with ADHD. he has been recommended Inspiral 10 mg once a day for 30 days and organisational thearapy. he seems to get more irritable after having this medicine. request your help as to from where can we get the homepathy treatment for ADHD.
Thank you
Mamta
My girl plays and will not stop even if the other person is tired. She also runs alot in the house. Across the room and back. If i ask whats happening she will say she is thinking. She rarely sits down for long unless its to watch tv.
My son Anuj Taneja aged 17+ years old is an Autistic child. he is very aggressive, behavioural issues like touching ladies, self injurious behaviour, violent, showing tantrums, mood swings, uses abusive words at times and so on. At times, when he is angry, he will tear clothes also and goes to destruction at any level. he does not study also but has a liking to go to school. But due to his behaviours issue, he is not accepted anywhere, I am very much worried about all this, how will he survive and how will we survive. Please help.
Sir,
My son khan Affan is 17yrs old, he suffer with ADHD last 3yrs. We consulte to Dr. Parhar in panvel mumbai ( psychologist), and start me-dicine he continue with medicine but he has
not well. He has very hyper and aggrassive, he
fight with her mother, sisters, and brothers pls help us and suggest medicine
My son ( adopted ) is now 12 years old. He is identified with ADHD. We are giving him medicine.He never reads or learns any thing. He has no sense of cleanliness also. he never do anything of himselves. He never bathes cleanly, doe not do his home work, always argues and ward off his works. He has never thought of any thing seriously nor behaves in responsible manner. He always dreams of luxurious life. Till now he could not sit and read any thing. Is there any medicine to make him learn. He does not learn or concentrate. He always need money and always quarrel with us. He will not sit attentively, nor losten to any good thing. He always orders things.
Is there any remedy for the same.
Kindly answer.
Hi Doctor Sharma,
My son Divyansh is 10 year old and studying in class 5th . He is having ADHD & mild Dyslexia problem . We consulted to Dr. Roma Kumar (clinical Psychologist) in Sir Ganga Ram Hospital and she taken 3 assessment and recomended to special educator. In-fact he got little bit improvemt there but still the academic problem into classes to note down the home work etc. remain same. Now we consulted to Dr. R. K . Sabharwal (NEUROLOGY & EPILEPSY) in SGRH and he recommend
medicine INSPIRAL SR 10mg 1 tab daily in morning and 5-6 drops of SYP SIZODON for 4-5 months . We started this medicine just one and half month before buut with this medicine some time he feel headache pain in stomach.
We are very upset and confussed what to do? Pls help us if possible.
I have a 14 year old girl with adhd she is always anger, lashes out at people espially peers very confrontational mostly with peers easily irritated.
My son is 3 and half yr old.he has ODB (oppositional deiant behaviour) and ADHD.am am starting coucelling for him.is homeopathy helful for my child.and wat medicines should be given .
Hi, Dr. Sharma….. I have a nine year old son whom was diagnosed with ADHD,AUTISM-ASPERGER,SPEECH/LANGAGE,AND EMOTIONAL DISTURBANCE.. He has frequent crying spells and angry outbursts…what homeopathics would you recommend for my child? Thanks