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Is your child arguing back frequently or showing signs of annoying behavior like screaming “no” to all your requests and getting verbally abusive on a daily basis?
These are signs of severe behavioral problems and discipline challenges that children affected by ADHD throw up. While it is normal for most children to answer back or ignore parents’ requests sometimes, when such conduct becomes chronic it is a manifestation of ADHD, often coupled with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). As many as 40 per cent of the children afflicted by ADHD generally also suffer from ODD, which is characterized by chronic abusive or obnoxious behavior, a tendency to argue or annoy frequently etc.
The bad news is that this behavior can spill into adulthood, leading to severe personal and professional problems that can even have social ramifications when they result in reckless driving, alcoholism, gambling and such ills.
The good news is that with the help of behavior therapy even the most obnoxious and annoying child can be managed. Here are some simple steps and homeopathic medicines for adhd to manage aggressive and abusive behavior in ADHD children.
Positive action works better than negative strategy
Parents need to make use of reward rather than punishment to correct ADHD behavior. Children respond better to positive incentives than to negative ones. For instance, if a child has the annoying habit of turning on the television full blast despite requests to lower the volume, tell him that he will earn 10 minutes extra of viewing his favorite program if keeps the sound low.
Reinforce good behavior with reward.
If a child sits still through class or his parent-teacher meeting, praise him publicly or reward his good conduct.
Don’t be drawn into arguments
Psychologists say that aggressive ADHD kids not only like arguing or answering back but also enjoy drawing parents, teachers or peers into the arguing mode. They like it when they are in the center of the argument. The moment the parents or teachers get into an argument with them, they land on their turf. The abusive child keeps tossing out the verbal bait and the parent keeps falling into the trap.So, stop rising to the bait and arguing with the chronically annoying child who loves to argue about anything and everything.
Try time out strategy
The use of “time-out,” which entails isolating the child immediately for a short period of time, is considered a very effective strategy for dealing with aggressive behavior as it gives both the parent and the child time to cool down.Psychologists usually advise parents to apply 1 minute of timeout for each year of age, which mean 4 minutes for a four year old. The general norm suggested by psychologists is applying the 30% rule to kids with ADHD and learning disabilities.Thus, an abusive or aggressive child should immediately be removed from a situation in which he is annoying or endangering others. Try to make the child look upon time out as a way of cooling off rather than as a form of isolation from others.
Channelize physical aggression into verbal outlet
While mildly aggressive acts should be allowed in a child so as to enable him to let off some steam, when the behavior becomes abusive, physically aggressive or intentional, the best way is to channelize the physical aggression into a verbal outlet. This could mean sometimes allowing the ADHD child to use words that may not be acceptable in normal kids.
Anticipating aggression
Many a time a parent can anticipate situations when a child with ADHD is likely to get aggressive or abusive. Quite frequently, an ADHD simply child explodes in public without any provocation. If such a flare-up happens in public, it is advisable for the parent to remove themselves from the situation by making an exit.
Redirect energy into motor skill
If a child’s verbal aggression develops into intentionally abusive and socially embarrassing conduct, the parents need to channelize his aggression into positive physical activity and motor skills like competitive one-on-one sports, energy-consuming music or dancing, competitive video gaming and such activity .With patience and understanding, parents and other care givers can correct ADHD-related aggressiveness in children through such behavioral therapy.
Top Homeopathic medicines for Abusiveness in kIds With ADHD
Chamomilla :- Homoeopathic medicine chamomilla is one of the best indicated remedies in cases of extreme abusiveness in children. The child may be extremely restless and may cry continuously. Chamomilla may be prescribed when the child keeps demanding one thing after the other and refuses when given. There may be temper tantrum on every little thing. The child cannot tolerate if anyone tries to speak to him. The child may be extremely abusive and complaining. The child cannot take no for an answer and may keep moaning continuously because he is being refused things that he demands. Chamomilla may be given in children who get extremely abusive and violent when anyone interrupts him.
Cina :- Homoeopathic medicine cina is one very well indicated remedy in children who are abusiveness. The child may be very cross and irritable and hates when touched. Cina may be prescribed in children who don’t want to be carried, talked to or touched. They may turn away from strangers. The child bores his face in his mother’s lap and cries incessantly. Here again, the child desires many things but rejects everything when offered. Cina may be prescribed in children who suffer from worm infestations.
Antimony Crud :- Homoeopathic medicine antim crud is also a very well indicated medicine in children who are unusually abusive. The child is excessively irritable and crossed. Any attempt to please the child fails. Nothing seems to satisfy the child. There is much brooding and the child doesn’t want to speak. The child gets angry when someone looks at him. Antim crud may be prescribed in children who are extremely short tempered without any relevant cause.
Veartrum Album :- Homoeopathic medicine veratrum alb is an indicated remedy in children who throw temper tantrums. There may be extreme mood swings and crankiness may alternate with a submissive behavior. The child may scream and curse when angry. Veratrum alb may be prescribed in children who get physically violent when angry. There may be an unusual tendency to tear or cut things during bouts of anger. The child may sit in an awkward position and become totally incommunicable.
Hyoscyamus :- Homoeopathic medicine hyoscyamus is a very well indicated remedy in abusiveness in children. The child may be very quarrelsome and abusive. He may hurl verbal abuses at everyone around him. There may be constant grumbling and muttering due to irritation. The child may be extremely impatient and talkative. Hyocyamus may be prescribed when the child make fun of other children and is extremely insulting. There may be an unusual tendency to find fault. There is much dejection and despair. The child may be insensitive to others feelings.
Natrum Mur:- Homoeopathic medicine natrum mur may be prescribed in cases of abusive children who are extremely weepy and cross. They refuse to be consoled and weep more on consolation. The child is generally well behaved and may be suppressd for a long time. Due to prolonged suppression, there may piling up of the emotions. Suddenly, the child just explodes with angry bouts. The child prefers to be left alone to cry. There is much awkwardness and hasty behavior. Natrum mur may be prescribed when the child gets irritated with trifle things.
I am facing severe behavioural issues with my 17 year old son.
He is abusive, says things like “you are mad” when I check him for browsing the internet or wasting time. instead of studies. If I ask for the laptop from him he throws it away and says things like “ok, never give me anything”
He is not open about his plans. If I ever ask about what he wants do do, he says “nothing”. He is not appearing for any competitive exam.
He is in class 12 but not studying seriously for the board exams either.
He was an excellent student in grade 10 but ever since he has taken science in 11th (with a little push from our end), he has started doing badly in school.
We thought things would improve on their own but things have gotten only worse.
I dont know whether he is studying or not. He just doesnt talk about studies.
Sometimes when he is in a good mood he will talk about other things like football etc (he plays regularly) but he shuts up immediately when we discuss studies.
I am very sad about this erratic behaviour. But there is a big communication gap that I am not able to breach. PLEASE HELP>
Thanks
My 11year old son is so naughty I dont even know what to do anymore he lies , he steals im confused as a parent ,is there any medicine that he can take to calm him down
Hello, My grandson is 7 he is getting in trouble at school by throwing chairs in class, tell teacher no and won’t do class work, throwing rocks at kids. The bus he’s disreputable by not seating in his seat and saying inappropriate things. Thinks it’s cool to act mean. At home he has melt downs over when things are taken away crys and says he’s a bad boy. He also does distructive things for no apparent reason. What can we do to help him? I’m trying homeopathic sprays and I take him to a therapist once a week. He has become worst in the last 2 to 3 months. Help me please!! Penny
Dear Dr. Sharma at present I am an ECE and I have taken care of a child since infancy. This child was born with a delay of speech and motor growth. He is now 5 years old he can talk and is able to walk. His speech is limited so now he has a very hard time communicating what he wants. His mother has taken him to sick kids and Erin Oaks and have told her that he has a condition of ADHD. He goes through moments of aggression towards his mother and little sister by hitting, punching and pinching them. She told that he loses his temper and she now has him on ridalin it has been a week now and he is having hallucinations! I would like to know what I can do to help this little family and what natural herbs would be better for this child!
Dr.my daughter is 11.6 years old.too much stubbornnes.argue on everything.has no routine for her day.lack organization.have difficulty in maths n english(written).bossy amongst friends.have no permanent hobbies,mood swings.belittle our house help.no respect for elders.find faults in others.has no value for things,money.
My child is 6 yr old an just started Kindergarten., ADHD runs in both parents side and his 25 yr old brother had ADHD an ODD I took him to physiologist an is supposed to be evaluated but not until November. School has only been in for 5 weeks and I gotten numerous calls about his behavior from the Principal an today had to go get him from school because of his behavior. She said next step is suspension an hes only in Kindergarten. Is there anything I can give him that will calm him down an help him focus and follow directions like the other kids..I am so sad an hurt for him.
My daughter 15 years old
1. Very aggressive
2. Bad behaviour
3. Get angry as and when asked to study
4. Abbsuive language
5. Curse
6. Threaten to kill me and her mother
7. Weeping all the time
8. Never listen to any body
9. Speaking all the time don’t want to keep quiet
10. Was under epilepsy treatment from 2007 to 2013
11 No seizure after stopping treatment
12 tear cloths through pillows
13 badly organising the things and her belongings
14 Books are in bad shape tear pages
15 very poor in logical things like maths science etc
16 can memorise songs etc in one go
17 never accept her fault
18 Others are blamed for wrong happening
Tried Hyoscyamus 200 two months
Stramonium 30 for 20 days
Nux Vomica with vita C15 and BC 16 of Dr Reckwage for 30 days
No improvement seen kindly suggest remedy.
My only daughter now 24yrs old drop out from school at 12th standard. she had suffer from anxity and depression at the age of 17yrs old. we consulted psycrytist Dr. and since the year 2010 in treatment of medecines.
At present she at home and just watch TV, Internet and consume Food of her choice mostly from outside. She is not obidient to parents and suffer from Anxity attack. Ask same questions repeatedly and demand Food of her choice. Developed weight 82kgs and do not go for walking or do any kind of exercise. Mood swing and if not given what she demand become aggresive. Somtime attack physically to her Mother.
Lost self cofidence and live in virtual World. Is there Homeopathy treatment for her. Alopathy Medecines consuming is now showing side effects as developed diabatis, Thyroid , irregular mensuration and high cholestrarol. please reply for her proper treatment.
Good morning Dr. Sharma my name is CHRYSTAL JOHNSON and I’m writing you to get some help for my 9yr old daughter she very violent I’ve been thru two broking wrist close calls to my toddler being burned alive and the bath tub she have been Baker acted more ten times nothing seems to be helping the sad part about it is she want the help she cry’s out for help but as a parent of two it’s hard the therapist come when they feel like it or they come and then leave my soon to be 5yr old is acting out as well because she see the big sister is doing it I need your help DOC
Greetings! For the past three years my son has been lying, stealing(primarily food) and disobeying. We give him instructions and he comes up with his way to do things. Then he lies, even when caught. He steals food, even things he is allergic to. Have tried various forms of punishment, removing favorite things, stern discussions, etc. yet nothing lasts long, maybe as short as hours before he disobeys or lies again. At wits end. Up until this time he was a very well-behaved child. Please help. No diagnoses on him…
He is almost 10…
I have a 13 year old daughter who has difficulty with reading and writing. She ignore when you let her do something. She is in grade 5.
Will you please help Dr. What can you recommend.
Quick response Will be appreciated.
Regards
Lucia Oarum
im thinking of giving my son Veratrum Album. but the way he acts out when angry is more kicking items, hitting them and throwing them. Does that go along the same lines of that description? and also Im not seeing much on the hyperactivity aspects of it. (fidgeting, cant sit during meals – has to take off running, chewing his shirts, how he has like a stutter but is more like he cant say things fast enough ex: instead of being m m m m m my tttttoy…. its my my my my toy…and is like hes holding his breath and starts again my my my my toy. i have to tell him to breath deep breaths and start again and it works)
Dr I also have a 14 yr old son he hates bathing and only takes my instructions when he need something from me. Everytime he is supposed to bath I have to force him. He likes soccer more than anything in his life. And he likes pleasing outside people more than me. I have come to a point that I feel I’m giving up on him. Please help me because I don’t know what to do anymore.
My son now 32 is in bodybuilding P roffession.
He has always been argumentative,defiant and aggressive since adolescence. No counselling or pleading ever works. In his aggression he turns destructive ,abusive and physically violent. He wants to speak anything to n about anyone but not ready to listen. His 3 yrs old daughter n wife are worst affected n traumatised. Please suggest. He is not likely to take medicine with knowledge and uses steroids and HgS.
Bisht,
Advise his wife to put the medicine in his water. There is no taste. Sometimes people are “out of their minds” and we cannot expect them to comply. Throwing things is a sign of Staphysgaria. Chamomile is Dr. Sharma’s first remedy. Try one at a time and see which works best. 200 dose is every other day.
which remedies will help hitting, kicking others when angry. sometime will sudden angry
without any reason
why deaf father keep yell and verbal abuse to my hearing son he is teenager I can see my son was unhappy for long time since he live with his father I do firgure it out I want my son come home with me and make sure he is secure and safe and healthy be happy my son didnt ready to move to come with me I wonder why he act neverous and he keep avoid of his dad around I dont understand what going on with them ,,,, I do care about my son s ADHD since he was kid ,,,,, I try tell his father to be stopped from verbal abuse or yelled like that he said teenager never listen at all its not make any sense ??
My kid boy age 7yrs. But he shouts a lot. He put TV and don’t give remote. Always he starts shouting. Beating or unnecessary screams. When he screams he becomes red n veins become prominent. Due to this we ggive punishment but it hardly matters. M very sad n very tensed. But he ranks 1st in class. But at home he don’t concentrating. Plz suggest me.
MyMy daughter age 23. She is epilipsy patient. But she looks normaley. We are four members. We three out of the house daily. After that she bathing,eating and washing clothes every day. Then she watching tv morning 4hours and evening 4hours. She is not going outside. In some times she is very angry and thrown anything in his hand on our three.we are taking more treatment,but no results.pl help me, and how to slove this problem.
My son is 25 took him off risperdal because of abnormal ekg. He needs something for his aggressive behavior he keeps messing with things putting it in his closet. He broke a light bulb in a lamp while off. He doesn’t want to take a bath sometimes weeks and he has major insomnia. He takes his time getting ready for day program or to go take a family member home. He wants his way or pushes an hits. He is a sweet young man. But I think he’s to wired up in the brain loud outburst of noises lol! He can’t be STILL not getting rest. I gave him sleeping pills over counter like unisom didnt help! I heard marijuana calm autism but can’t locate a doctor in southern California. Or tell me which homeopathy would help calm him down an less behavior problems? We tried risperdal on since 3 Dr said immune to it won’t work! Also he runs off not like use to but had incident other day. He came back after 3 block he does come back! I look forward to hearing from you its tiring an he needs close supervison which he has I’m his mother care taker an conservator! Thanks
My son is 3 years, he slaps himself very badly, hits his head and throws extreme tantrums, sometimes asks for food but when we give food throws all the food. He has behaviour problems and becomes very violent which is very difficult to manage. He understands everything what we say,plays with kids , follows instructions, had good eye contact, speaks few words.what can be the problem and what is treatment for it
Where can we get these products/meds? Some of the symptoms you describe definitely fit one of my granchildren. Please advise thankyou !!
My daughter is 8 years old.she speaks rudely to everyone around her including parents and friends.she wants everyone to treat her nicely as if she is queen but she doesn’t behave nicely with everyone. She doesn’t listen at all even if we tell 4-5times.I m very concerned. Please help .should I meet a doc or psychiatric.